3 Reasons Not to Date a Surfer

Are you one of those innocent lambs that have to date a surfer? Oh boi!

Living the life of a human being can be quite hard. What’s probably even harder is to work your way around having a love affair during your lifetime. Sure, some people unwillingly achieve being alone all their life. Others choose to do so on purpose (e. g. monks).

I, however, failed in doing so and fell for the charm of several women. Not all of them had to date me as a surfer, though. Yes, that’s because I haven’t always been a surfer. It’s a dark past without the joy and ecstasy of beautiful waves.

The following report is all about why it’s better for women NOT to date a surfer and it’s based on my own experience.

#1 Waves first, then women

Let’s assume that a woman just entered the exciting life of a surfer. Everything is fine, the poor butterflies still smash against the abdominal wall trying to escape, and right now there is nothing more beautiful than dating this particular surfer. Until the very moment when the surfer has to choose between a good surf or spending time with the dear woman.

You want to take your surfer babe for a nice, romantic walk along the beach. The sun is shining and you walk down the promenade holding hands. Suddenly, your surfer boyfriend stops walking and puts on a really irritated look.

“What’s up, babe?” you might ask.

His hands points towards the ocean and he says, “The waves look pretty fun.”

You, an empathic being as you are, instantly recognise the longing in his look and in his voice. It could be that you are a good girl and send him off to surf right away. It could also be that he swallows down his yearning and keeps on walking with you… at least this time.

But it won’t stay like this for long. Sooner or later there will be a rivalry between you and the waves. And sooner or later you will come off second best. It can be hard when your surfer love thinks about the forecast all day long instead of thinking about you. This is one of the disadvantages of dating a surfer.

#2 Surfing is a sport

So let me ask you this question: Do you stop working out and start gaining weight, only because you have the honour to date a surfer? Probably not.

If your surfer boyfriend (or girlfriend) chooses to go surfing instead of amusing you, please don’t get upset. He doesn’t say, “Please don’t go to the gym, entertain me instead!”

Or does he? Plus, it’s quite likely you can do whatever sports you do almost any time of the day or week, right? Waves, however, are like mermaids. Sometimes you can see them, sometimes you can’t. And if they show, you should surf the  hell out of the waves. You never know when or if they are coming back. That’s actually why surfing has such a high priority in the lives of surfers.

And no, “The waves won’t run away,” is not a valid argument. In fact, they do run away. Who knows, the waves may even turn bad within 30 minutes. If there are waves, you have to go surfing NOW.

I must admit, though, that NOW could possibly mean two weeks non-stop. Anyway, if you want to date a surfer, but don’t have the ability to give your surfer boyfriend or girlfriend that much freedom and independence, your relationship probably won’t last long. You can think of surfing as being cake. You don’t always get to eat cake. So you eat some whenever you can.

#3 Surfers are often gone

If you want to date a surfer, you should keep in mind that he or she will be gone… A LOT. Be it with or without you. Every surfer will travel whenever the situation allows it. And he or she won’t travel to take a sweet selfie with you in front of the Eiffel tower in Paris, but in order to hunt the perfect wave.

Your surfer boyfriend or girlfriend will do anything within his or her power to feel the refreshing water of the ocean on his or her skin as soon as possible again. And he or she won’t have a single thought about whether you are joining him or her on that trip.

You have to understand – waves are wandering around like nomads. You don’t have surfing season all year round in one spot. You might be able to surf all year round in some spots, but you will most definitely find better waves somewhere else at certain times of the year. That’s why surfers are bound to check when and where they can get their next piece of cake. That can mean that a surfer has to spend, for example, two or three months in Bali. That’s no reason for you to get upset or angry. You can try to make your surfer boyfriend or girlfriend choose between you and three months in Bali. But I guarantee that it won’t end well for you.

Moral of the story being – if you have a problem with long distance relationships, or if you are a jealous person in general, then you shouldn’t date a surfer.

It just isn’t your thing.

Sorry to all the fellow surfers whose relationships I destroyed with this post. But I have probably done you a favour.

To all the ladies and lads that have been sent this article by their surfer boyfriend or girlfriend – I think he or she wants to tell you something.

I am sorry,



  1. Funny!
    Based on my own experience, though, I may say that dating a surfer can be a wonderful thing!
    They are usually annoyingly attractive with that brown skin and blond hair from the sun and salt all year long.
    They always go surfing when waves are good but – hey! – Waves dont last forever! So they have plenty of time the rest of the day.
    Also not all girls love cheesy calm walks by the beach! Some of us are so willing to get into the water and learn how to ride some waves! Could we find a better/funnier instructor?
    They usually listen to lovely, calm music Jack Johnson style too.
    And most of them like natural girls, no make up or artificial stuff
    Most of them (all basically) also longboard so you can longboard around the city together which is pretty fun.
    Plus, how not to like that adventurous spirit of them?
    I’d totally recommend dating a surfer: usually calm, spiritual and simple (in a good way) boys! (Free surfing lessons too)
    Just saying 🙂

  2. To all girls out there before dating a surfer, please read this article. I dated a surfer during 4 years and still have nightmares. Surfers are selfish people by nature, they will never put anyone first besides them and what they want to do.
    Of course if you want someone that will never be there for you, when you are working they are at the beach, when you are in the hospital, they are ate the beach, when you need them, they are at the beach.. you see what i mean?
    Of course, he will not show you right away, you will feel is an adventure exactly what you are looking for.. in the end your life will be so annoying doing the same shit all the time, taking pictures to him when surfing despite climate conditions… every single day, so do not expect do experience anything else in life!
    Prepare yourself, when the waves are not good he will be with you, with a big paranoia blaming yourself if possible because he cant surf!
    So many things i could tell you about.. dont expect to speak about family, buying a house, have kids with this people, you will never built anything!!
    Instead he will make you pay for the restaurant that he wants to go, buy him presents because his ego believes that because of the tan skin and muscle body he deserves presents, they need to be taken cared actually like a prostitute!
    They are there just for sex and thats it!
    To all you girls avoid yourself a lot of tears.
    My relationship ended when the surfer decided to became surf instructer. I supported him to follow that career and he left me shortly with no further explanation. He was busy between the parties, surf and .. of course having a girlfriend was not convenient…so tell me is that the life you want?

  3. I have started dating an older guy who is a surfer. I do not recommend being with a surfer as you can never make plans for the day because surfing comes first.
    If you date a surfer, they generally spend their money on holidays to surf places. You will always be second and don’t you dare question them about it.

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